Domestic Abuse and Narcissistic Abuse Awareness with Feyisitan

  Image by Andrea Piacquadio on Canva Domestic abuse is traumatic and it is important to understand the devastating impact it has on the victims/survivors bearing in mind that there are various dynamics of domestic abuse. It takes a lot of courage for survivors to reach out to other people, to discuss their ordeal. When a victim/survivor reaches out to you, be empathetic and kind; your reaction and your words could help them to heal or cause them more pain. While the abuser may be known to you, the victim's experience with them is different from yours.  Be mindful to avoid any statement that implies or suggests the victim may be partly or fully responsible for the abuse. Any of these statements if made could cause them more harm, making their traumatic situation a lot worse.  These are some of the things you MUST NEVER ask or say to victims/survivors of domestic abuse: 🚫 1️⃣ What did you do?   It's an offensive question. There's no better way of acutely accusing or ...

One of the greatest challenges victims/targets of abuse face in speaking out is getting people to believe them. This is because abusers usually have chronic multiple personalities or suffer from other forms of psychological challenges. The abusive partner could be the most amazing sibling, boss, friend, colleague, religious leader, saving other people's lives, being compassionate to other people BUT on the home-front, the abuser is a 'monster' or a 'devil's advocate' or 'in-house terrorist'. The person you see that you think you know is different from the person they know. Domestic abuse is not just physical but also include patterns of coercive control, manipulation, intimidation, verbal abuse, spiritual abuse and psychological abuse. Not every victim will have visible scars to show for their ordeal.  So when people experiencing domestic abuse reach out to you, Believe them. Help them to get help. With love Fèyísìtàn O.A Dip.Cogniti...