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The Cycle of Abuse
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Many people, especially those who have not experienced domestic abuse often blame those experiencing abuse for condoning it, for not speaking out or even insinuate they deserve to be abused on the basis that the victims must have seen the 'signs' or experienced some form of abusive behaviour on the onset before committing to a relationship with the abuser. Likewise, many people also expect that victims of domestic violence should have a 'certain look' or appearance before, during and after the abuse. These types of beliefs stem from the limitation or lack of understanding of what domestic abuse is or the understanding that domestic abuse is only physical. Well, I have ''walked the walk'', so I can very much ''talk the talk''. Abusers don't have a typical facial appearance or physical build neither do they introduce themselves by saying ...''Hi, I'm an abuser, I control and manipulate people and occasionally beat them up
Commandments to Surviving Domestic Abuse
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Image by Oleg Magni on Canva Many people still consider discussing domestic abuse a 'taboo' because some have accepted it as the norm while many others refer to it as merely a 'family matter' that should be managed within the family. Domestic violence is a crime against humanity and while it's prevalent amongst family members, it is still very much a crime. Living in an abusive relationship is a tough experience for anyone regardless of the magnitude of the abuse. Surviving domestic abuse takes courage and firm determination. It is a CHOICE that ONLY the ''Target'' or Victim of abuse must make. There's an abundance of life to live and purpose to fill after domestic abuse. The experience of abuse does not define who you are. Below are some tips I have put together. I refer to them as Commandments of Surviving Domestic Abuse Thou shalt not allow ANYONE turn you into a victim Thou shalt not GIVE UP on THYSELF Thou shalt BREAK THE SILENC
Types of Domestic Abuse
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Nurtured-Not-Tortured: Types of Domestic Abuse Abuse is a broad topic however the scope of this cause is in Domestic Abuse in intimate relationships; that is in marriage or dating between current or former spouses/partners. I will use the words 'spouse' or 'partner' interchangeably to represent the couple. I have had many conversations with men and women of various orientation, social status, age and religion with regards to their understanding of domestic violence or domestic abuse. Nine out of ten people understand domestic abuse to be only physical abuse where the abusive partner physically hurts the victim. Some understand it to be ..''women's issue'' or ''issue with women''. Some said..''it's when a husband or wife beat each other in marriage''. I believe these types of responses are not a complete surprise to many of us. But the reality is domestic abuse is not a ''woman's i
Be Nurtured
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Posted By: Fèyísìtàn Living in an abusive home is stressful. It is an abuser's tactic to crush their target's self-esteem. To everyone out there experiencing domestic violence/abuse, hurting from negative words spoken to them, hear this...''The voice of your abuser is not the voice of God''. Shut your mind against any negative words and embrace God's chosen words for you. You are who the Lord says you are and not someone's inability to see your worth. ''You're the righteousness of God'' (2 Corinthians 5:21), ''You are more than a conqueror through God who loves you (Romans 8:37), ''You're God's workmanship created for good works'' (Ephesians 2:10), ''You're of God...Greater is the God who lives in you than he that is in the world'' (1 John 4:4), ''You're the temple of the Holy Spirit'' (1 Corinthians 6:19). Never Give Up on yourself because you ar
The Foundation of Domestic Abuse
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Posted By: Fèyísìtàn Abuse is a learned behaviour. It's stemmed from upbringing, parenting, peer pressure, societal influence, associations and/or personal decisions. When you teach your children to lie for you, they will lie to you. Teach them to steal for you, they will steal from you. Those are facts. You can fast and pray 24/7, 365 days of the year for your children, tell them to do the right things but If your actions do not align with the message you're passing to them you'll lose them to the acts they see you perform. Children learn more from what they see and the acts being modelled to them than what they hear. There are parents who tell their daughters ''men are horrible'' ''men can't be trusted'' ''men are dogs'' ''men will let you down'' etc, there are also parents who tell their sons ''don't trust any woman'' ''don't be faithful to any one woman but