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Things Not To Say To Survivors of Domestic Abuse
Image by Andrea Piacquadio on Canva Domestic abuse is traumatic and it is important to understand the devastating impact it has on the victims/survivors bearing in mind that there are various dynamics of domestic abuse. It takes a lot of courage for survivors to reach out to other people, to discuss their ordeal. When a victim/survivor reaches out to you, be empathetic and kind; your reaction and your words could help them to heal or cause them more pain. While the abuser may be known to you, the victim's experience with them is different from yours. Be mindful to avoid any statement that implies or suggests the victim may be partly or fully responsible for the abuse. Any of these statements if made could cause them more harm, making their traumatic situation a lot worse. These are some of the things you MUST NEVER ask or say to victims/survivors of domestic abuse: 🚫 1️⃣ What did you do? It's an offensive question. There's no better way of acutely accusing or ...
Commandments to Surviving Domestic Abuse
Image by Oleg Magni on Canva Many people still consider discussing domestic abuse a 'taboo' because some have accepted it as the norm while many others refer to it as merely a 'family matter' that should be managed within the family. Domestic violence is a crime against humanity and while it's prevalent amongst family members, it is still very much a crime. Living in an abusive relationship is a tough experience for anyone regardless of the magnitude of the abuse. Surviving domestic abuse takes courage and firm determination. It is a CHOICE that ONLY the ''Target'' or Victim of abuse must make. There's an abundance of life to live and purpose to fill after domestic abuse. The experience of abuse does not define who you are. Below are some tips I have put together. I refer to them as Commandments of Surviving Domestic Abuse Thou shalt not allow ANYONE turn you into a victim Thou shalt not GIVE UP on THYSELF Thou shalt BREAK THE SILENC...
Be Nurtured
Posted By: Fèyísìtàn Living in an abusive home is stressful. It is an abuser's tactic to crush their target's self-esteem. To everyone out there experiencing domestic violence/abuse, hurting from negative words spoken to them, hear this...''The voice of your abuser is not the voice of God''. Shut your mind against any negative words and embrace God's chosen words for you. You are who the Lord says you are and not someone's inability to see your worth. ''You're the righteousness of God'' (2 Corinthians 5:21), ''You are more than a conqueror through God who loves you (Romans 8:37), ''You're God's workmanship created for good works'' (Ephesians 2:10), ''You're of God...Greater is the God who lives in you than he that is in the world'' (1 John 4:4), ''You're the temple of the Holy Spirit'' (1 Corinthians 6:19). Never Give Up on yourself because you ar...
Refuge/Safe Houses
Posted By: Fèyísìtàn Refuge/Safe houses are accommodation settings where people who have escaped domestic abuse are sheltered and protected. Some centres have provision to accommodate children. These safe houses offer a variety of services such as support, mentoring and counselling Nigeria Another Chance Women's Home - A Safe Haven for Abused Women Phone: 0803 506 6656, 0818 029 9999 Email: infor@funkefelixadejumo.org PLEASE KINDLY SHARE VALID CONTACTS OF REFUGE/SAFE HOUSES IN NIGERIA & OTHER AFRICAN COUNTRIES Thank you Please follow on: Facebook , Instagram , Twitter
Emergency Contacts
ALWAYS MAKE SAFETY A PRIORITY If you're in danger and require urgent help or need to help someone else in danger, Please contact your local police or other available emergency hotlines. As you can imagine that these contact numbers can be very busy sometimes, PLEASE DO GET YOURSELF TO SAFETY if in immediate danger. Emergency Contact Details: Nigeria Hotlines: 112, 08137960048 In Lagos, Nigeria, this team takes domestic violence seriously and will be able to help and protect you. Lagos State Domestic and Sexual Violence Response Team (DSVRT) - 0813 796 0048 Ministry of Justice, Secretariat, Alausa, Lagos Email: info@dsvrtlagos.org Violation of Girls and Women – 0800727 32255 CHELD Domestic Violence Helplines – 0810 757 2829; 0813 164 3208 Another Chance Women's Home - 0803 506 6656, 0818 029 9999 Email: infor@funkefelixadejumo.org United Kingdom In UK, the police take domestic violence seriously and will be able to help and ...