Domestic Abuse and Narcissistic Abuse Awareness with Feyisitan

Image credit:  Netflix Like many great TV series and movies on Netflix, MAID came highly recommended. Because of my niche (domestic abuse and narcissistic abuse), there are some amazing people who often recommend related movies, tv series, documentaries or YouTube videos for me to watch.  I have two online learning programmes that I'm currently project managing, so I thought it would be great to binge watch a nice series on Netflix this weekend and not think about work. I heard about MAID earlier in the week, so I decided it's the one to watch. I watched the first 7 episodes on Friday night and finished watching the remaining 3 episodes this afternoon. I had different feelings throughout. I was moved to tears at different scenes and really laughed out loud at some. By the time I finished watching it, I felt a bit drained afterwards and couldn't just remain indoors. I had to go for a long, relaxed walk afterwards. Yep..it was that real. It was like walking away from a real l

  📌 When we talk about domestic violence or narcissistic abuse in intimate relationships, we're not merely talking about ' marital conflicts', 'misunderstandings', 'anger issues', 'love or lack of it' neither is it about 'prayerlessness', 'women and their mouth' , 'lack of submission', 'unforgiveness', 'we're all Christians' 'sins' or 'just a difficult person'.   📌 Domestic violence/Narcissistic abuse involves U-N-R-E-P-E-N-T-A-N-T, REPEATED cycles of physical and very subtle non-physical violent behaviours perpetrated in an insidious manner.   📌Few points to bear in mind:   👉🏽ALL NARCISSISTS ARE ABUSERS.  👉🏽Not all abusers are narcissists.   👉🏽ALL abusers possess narcissistic personality traits.   📌 Narcissistic personality traits have been written in the bible long before any medical or psychiatric diagnostic and statistical manual was ever formally produced.   📌✅ 2 Timothy 3:

  Gender Based Violence is an act of violence and violation of basic human rights directed against men and women but it affects women and girls disproportionately. These acts of violence include but not limited to: Domestic Violence, Sexual Violence & Harassment and Institutionalised Violence. Christians are not excluded from being perpetrators or victims of these evil acts. While It is very common for perpetrators to manipulate the scriptures to justify their inhumane actions, victims are largely not heard, protected or supported by the church. As a Church leader what can you do differently in your ministry? ✅1️⃣ Speak-Up & Expose Evil Acts ❣“Speak up for those who cannot speak for themselves, for the rights of all who are destitute. Speak up and judge fairly; defend the rights of the poor and needy.” - Proverbs 31:8-9 ❣"Take no part in the worthless deeds of evil and darkness; instead, expose them" - Ephesians 5:11 ✅ 2️⃣Employ Professionals ❣“Trust in

 This brilliant poem was written by Abdullah Shoaib. It can be read in two ways. One way is filled with self criticism then when read bottom up translates to a positive affirmation. The type of conversation we have within ourselves influences our feelings, behaviour and overall self-perception. ❣ If you find yourself drowning in the unpleasant words others have used about you, be intentional about speaking to yourself like the worthy and valuable person that you are. ❣The operative word here is 'intentional' 💞 Bear in mind that verbal abuse is not about who you are but a confession of the abuser's feelings about themselves. You have the power to change the words you speak to yourself.  Choose healthy, positive words. As always, thank you for reading. Please leave your comments and feedback and share, share, share With love, Feyisitan If you're experiencing domestic abuse or have escaped and still experiencing post-separation abuse, join my Facebook community for suppor

  Image by Andrea Piacquadio on Canva Domestic abuse is traumatic and it is important to understand the devastating impact it has on the victims/survivors bearing in mind that there are various dynamics of domestic abuse. It takes a lot of courage for survivors to reach out to other people, to discuss their ordeal. When a victim/survivor reaches out to you, be empathetic and kind; your reaction and your words could help them to heal or cause them more pain. While the abuser may be known to you, the victim's experience with them is different from yours.  Be mindful to avoid any statement that implies or suggests the victim may be partly or fully responsible for the abuse. Any of these statements if made could cause them more harm, making their traumatic situation a lot worse.  These are some of the things you MUST NEVER ask or say to victims/survivors of domestic abuse: 🚫 1️⃣ What did you do?   It's an offensive question. There's no better way of acutely accusing or shuttin

Glory to God for a victorious 2019 🙏🏼 💝 😍 💃 To my clients, THANK YOU for trusting me with your transformation journey Have a blissful, narc-free, abuse-free, guilt-free 2020 and beyond.  You're blessed and highly favoured  💖 💖 💖 Keep living and flourishing in your truth -  Unbroken, Unashamed and Unstoppable. Enjoy 😍 💝 🙏🏼 🥂 🍾 With Love  Feyisitan