The Bible on Narcissistic Abuse


πŸ“Œ When we talk about domestic violence or narcissistic abuse in intimate relationships, we're not merely talking about ' marital conflicts', 'misunderstandings', 'anger issues', 'love or lack of it' neither is it about 'prayerlessness', 'women and their mouth' , 'lack of submission', 'unforgiveness', 'we're all Christians' 'sins' or 'just a difficult person'. 

 πŸ“Œ Domestic violence/Narcissistic abuse involves U-N-R-E-P-E-N-T-A-N-T, REPEATED cycles of physical and very subtle non-physical violent behaviours perpetrated in an insidious manner. 

 πŸ“ŒFew points to bear in mind: 
πŸ‘‰πŸ½Not all abusers are narcissists. 
 πŸ‘‰πŸ½ALL abusers possess narcissistic personality traits. 

 πŸ“Œ Narcissistic personality traits have been written in the bible long before any medical or psychiatric diagnostic and statistical manual was ever formally produced. 

 πŸ“Œ✅ 2 Timothy 3: 2-5 1 But understand this, that in the last days dangerous times [of great stress and trouble] will come [difficult days that will be hard to bear]. 

 πŸ”₯🚩2 For people will be lovers of self [narcissistic, self-focused], lovers of money [impelled by greed], boastful, arrogant, revilers, disobedient to parents, ungrateful, unholy and profane, 

 πŸ”₯🚩3 [and they will be] unloving [devoid of natural human affection, calloused and inhumane], irreconcilable, malicious gossips, devoid of self-control [intemperate, immoral], brutal, haters of good,

 πŸ”₯🚩4 traitors, reckless, conceited, lovers of [sensual] pleasure rather than lovers of God, 

 πŸ”₯🚩5 holding to a form of [outward] godliness (religion), although they have denied its power [for their conduct nullifies their claim of faith]. 

 ⚠️πŸš«πŸ‘‰πŸ½ Avoid such people and keep far away from them. 

 πŸ“ŒWhen many or all of these character traits are identified in one person, the instruction here is clear - 

 πŸ“Œ✅ Now compare, 2 Timothy 3: 2- 4 to the listed criteria for the diagnosis of Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) in the fifth edition of the American Psychiatric Association's Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5) 

 πŸ”₯🚩A pervasive pattern of grandiosity (in fantasy or behaviour), need for admiration, and lack of empathy, beginning by early adulthood and present in a variety of contexts, as indicated by five (or more) of the following: 

πŸ”₯🚩 1. Has a grandiose sense of self-importance (e.g., exaggerates achievements and talents, expects to be recognized as superior without commensurate achievements). 

πŸ”₯🚩 2. Is preoccupied with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love. 

πŸ”₯🚩3. Believes that he or she is “special” and unique and can only be understood by or should associate with, other special or high-status people (or institutions). 

πŸ”₯🚩 4. Requires excessive admiration. 

πŸ”₯🚩 5. Has a sense of entitlement (i.e., unreasonable expectation of especially favourable treatment or automatic compliance with his or her expectations). 

πŸ”₯🚩 6. Is interpersonally exploitative (i.e., takes advantage of others to achieve his or her own ends).

πŸ”₯🚩7. Lacks empathy: is unwilling to recognize or identify with the feelings and needs of others. 

πŸ”₯🚩8. Is often envious of others or believes that others are envious of him or her. 

πŸ”₯🚩9. Shows arrogant, haughty behaviours and attitudes. 

 πŸ“ŒThe criteria listed in the referenced bible passage and the DSM-5 capture the key traits of narcissistic pathology, however the reality of the lived experiences and the devastating trauma from prolonged exposure on the primary target and/or the children involved can't be overemphasised. 

⚠️🚫 These traits don't 'suddenly change' in them just because they bear the title husband, wife, mother or father or any religious or spiritual title or just because a fellow religious narcissist laid hands on them. 

⚠️🚫 They do not change by merely declaring 'accepting Jesus Christ as their personal Lord and Saviour'. 

⚠️🚫 They're untameable demons in human form with the mission to steal, to kill and to destroy. 

⚠️🚫 They DO NOT CHANGE but they actively change their targets and the cycle of abuse continues. 

πŸ“ŒπŸš« For those stuck on condemning survivors for the signs they must have seen and ignored, the signs ARE NOT ALWAYS THERE AT THE ONSET of the relationship! 

πŸ‘‰πŸ½πŸš©They're wolves in sheep's clothing 

❣The bible is not a secret book. Repent and sin no more. 

πŸ’œ✅ Survivors, Stop depending on agents of deception who derive pleasure in keeping you in bondage to save you. 

πŸ’œ✅ You did not create these beasts, you CANNOT save them just because you're married to them or have children with them πŸ‘‰πŸ½ 1 Corinthians 7:16 

πŸ’œ✅ Your prayers and 'christianese' WILL NOT save them. They're rebellious against prayers 

πŸ’œ✅ Your 'encounter' with them is a result of generational errors. It's certainly NOT your fault you're abused neither is it 'your cross to bear' 

πŸ’œ✅ You certainly don't HAVE to endure it any second longer 

❣✅ The next time you're summoned to a 'witchcraft' intervention meeting to be reminded that ''God hates divorce'' and convinced to reconcile with the enemy of your soul, you can send this to your church/family group chat ....😜😜😜 

Please, let's be guarded. We can certainly do better. 

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