The Bible on Narcissistic Abuse

 

📌 When we talk about domestic violence or narcissistic abuse in intimate relationships, we're not merely talking about ' marital conflicts', 'misunderstandings', 'anger issues', 'love or lack of it' neither is it about 'prayerlessness', 'women and their mouth' , 'lack of submission', 'unforgiveness', 'we're all Christians' 'sins' or 'just a difficult person'. 

 📌 Domestic violence/Narcissistic abuse involves U-N-R-E-P-E-N-T-A-N-T, REPEATED cycles of physical and very subtle non-physical violent behaviours perpetrated in an insidious manner. 

 📌Few points to bear in mind: 

 👉🏽ALL NARCISSISTS ARE ABUSERS. 

👉🏽Not all abusers are narcissists. 

 👉🏽ALL abusers possess narcissistic personality traits. 

 📌 Narcissistic personality traits have been written in the bible long before any medical or psychiatric diagnostic and statistical manual was ever formally produced. 

 📌✅ 2 Timothy 3: 2-5 1 But understand this, that in the last days dangerous times [of great stress and trouble] will come [difficult days that will be hard to bear]. 

 🔥🚩2 For people will be lovers of self [narcissistic, self-focused], lovers of money [impelled by greed], boastful, arrogant, revilers, disobedient to parents, ungrateful, unholy and profane, 

 🔥🚩3 [and they will be] unloving [devoid of natural human affection, calloused and inhumane], irreconcilable, malicious gossips, devoid of self-control [intemperate, immoral], brutal, haters of good,

 🔥🚩4 traitors, reckless, conceited, lovers of [sensual] pleasure rather than lovers of God, 

 🔥🚩5 holding to a form of [outward] godliness (religion), although they have denied its power [for their conduct nullifies their claim of faith]. 

 ⚠️🚫👉🏽 Avoid such people and keep far away from them. 

 📌When many or all of these character traits are identified in one person, the instruction here is clear - 

 ⚠️🚫🚩🔥 AVOID SUCH PEOPLE AND KEEP FAR AWAY FROM THEM. 

 📌✅ Now compare, 2 Timothy 3: 2- 4 to the listed criteria for the diagnosis of Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) in the fifth edition of the American Psychiatric Association's Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5) 

 🔥🚩A pervasive pattern of grandiosity (in fantasy or behaviour), need for admiration, and lack of empathy, beginning by early adulthood and present in a variety of contexts, as indicated by five (or more) of the following: 

🔥🚩 1. Has a grandiose sense of self-importance (e.g., exaggerates achievements and talents, expects to be recognized as superior without commensurate achievements). 

🔥🚩 2. Is preoccupied with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love. 

🔥🚩3. Believes that he or she is “special” and unique and can only be understood by or should associate with, other special or high-status people (or institutions). 

🔥🚩 4. Requires excessive admiration. 

🔥🚩 5. Has a sense of entitlement (i.e., unreasonable expectation of especially favourable treatment or automatic compliance with his or her expectations). 

🔥🚩 6. Is interpersonally exploitative (i.e., takes advantage of others to achieve his or her own ends).

🔥🚩7. Lacks empathy: is unwilling to recognize or identify with the feelings and needs of others. 

🔥🚩8. Is often envious of others or believes that others are envious of him or her. 

🔥🚩9. Shows arrogant, haughty behaviours and attitudes. 

 📌The criteria listed in the referenced bible passage and the DSM-5 capture the key traits of narcissistic pathology, however the reality of the lived experiences and the devastating trauma from prolonged exposure on the primary target and/or the children involved can't be overemphasised. 

⚠️🚫 These traits don't 'suddenly change' in them just because they bear the title husband, wife, mother or father or any religious or spiritual title or just because a fellow religious narcissist laid hands on them. 

⚠️🚫 They do not change by merely declaring 'accepting Jesus Christ as their personal Lord and Saviour'. 

⚠️🚫 They're untameable demons in human form with the mission to steal, to kill and to destroy. 

⚠️🚫 They DO NOT CHANGE but they actively change their targets and the cycle of abuse continues. 

📌🚫 For those stuck on condemning survivors for the signs they must have seen and ignored, the signs ARE NOT ALWAYS THERE AT THE ONSET of the relationship! 

👉🏽🚩They're wolves in sheep's clothing 

❣The bible is not a secret book. Repent and sin no more. 

💜✅ Survivors, Stop depending on agents of deception who derive pleasure in keeping you in bondage to save you. 

💜✅ You did not create these beasts, you CANNOT save them just because you're married to them or have children with them 👉🏽 1 Corinthians 7:16 

💜✅ Your prayers and 'christianese' WILL NOT save them. They're rebellious against prayers 

💜✅ Your 'encounter' with them is a result of generational errors. It's certainly NOT your fault you're abused neither is it 'your cross to bear' 

💜✅ You certainly don't HAVE to endure it any second longer 

❣✅ The next time you're summoned to a 'witchcraft' intervention meeting to be reminded that ''God hates divorce'' and convinced to reconcile with the enemy of your soul, you can send this to your church/family group chat ....😜😜😜 

Please, let's be guarded. We can certainly do better. 

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