About Feyisitan

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Hi there, thank you for visiting my blog, I am Fรจyรญsรฌtร n. I am the founder of The Nurtured Ministries to create awareness of Domestic Violence in African societies. The initiative was initially titled  ''NurturedNotTortured'' was chosen primarily from the reflection of my experience being in a marital narcissistic abusive relationship for a long period of time. While the relationship was extremely toxic, it was stressful, draining and distracting but I was never broken. I was being nurtured by the reality of knowing who I was as an individual, knowing who I am in Christ as a Christian and an understanding of scriptural principles for everyday living.

I believe my experience was for a purpose, for such a time as this. To equip and prepare me for this Ministry to help others who are or may find themselves in abusive or toxic relationships.

2 Corinthians 1:3-4 clearly define the foundation of this cause.

 ''3: All praise to God, the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ…

You're More Powerful Than The Abuser


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Are you familiar with the phrase 'hurting people hurt others?๐Ÿค”. I bet you are๐ŸŒž๐Ÿ‘ฉ‍๐Ÿ’ป But are you aware that you're actually more powerful than the person abusing you??๐Ÿค” Maybe not necessarily physically but mentally #readon
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.No doubt abusive behaviours are learnt over time. No one was born an abuser ๐Ÿ’ฏ #notdnaissue๐Ÿคท‍♀️
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.Somewhere between faulted upbringing, exposure to trauma, suppressed emotions, unresolved personal issues, manipulated scriptures, entangled with warped religious and cultural beliefs, an abuser was made ๐Ÿ’ฏ.
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The abuser's first tactic is to strip you of your self-esteem or take advantage of your vulnerabilities
.The abuser instils fear in you out of their own insecurities not because of what you did or didn't do or say
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.Your escape/leaving is an exposure of their inadequacies. In other words, you're a 'mask thief'๐Ÿ™ˆ
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.Fear, entitlement mentality and insecurities are some of the reasons for the rage, smear campaign and post abusive attacks after you leave.
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.For those who are not aware
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.๐Ÿ‘‰๐ŸผThe risk to life is greater for some after they leave than when they stay in the relationship. That's why professionals are involved in high-risk cases to prevent that.
.So #stopasking 'Why can't they just leave?" It's not always that easy for many. I'll share more on that in my next post.
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.You have the right frame of mind to recognise that you're being abused or mistreated. Your ultimate power is your right mind ๐Ÿ’ช๐Ÿฝ๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜‡ #guardyourmind #seekhelp #never #your #fault
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.๐Ÿ‘‰๐ŸผIt's not your fault (never was and never will be)

๐Ÿ‘‰๐ŸผSeek professional help
.๐Ÿ‘‰๐ŸผYour silence is as harmful to you as the abuse
..๐Ÿ‘‰๐ŸผYou cannot help the abuser but you can help yourself
.๐Ÿ‘‰๐ŸผYou're not alone
.๐Ÿ‘‰๐ŸผRenew your mind

.๐Ÿ‘‰๐Ÿผ  No, you cannot 'pray' the abusive behaviour away
๐Ÿ‘‰๐ŸผSeek professional help
.๐Ÿ‘‰๐ŸผNever give up on you
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.What are your thoughts or contributions?? Use the comment section๐Ÿ‘‡๐Ÿผ Only if its safe for you to do so#safetyfirst ๐Ÿ›‘
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.#dvawareness #domesticabuse #narcissticabuse#nomore #behaviouralchallenges #awareness#knowthesigns #beinformed #knowledge#gaslighting #coercivecontrol #codependency #heal#evolve #thrive #transcend #madewhole #livetolove ๐Ÿ’

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